Monica: Through The Fire
To define anyone by the tragedies they’ve experienced is a mistake. The world is made up of those who have suffered. The ones we view as survivors and not victims are the ones who handle tragedy with grace. Until her life became tabloid fodder, Monica Arnold was considered one of the successes in this industry – a singer whose natural talent was discovered early on who was making the transition to an adult career with relative ease. Her first album Miss Thang (1995) was a smash with classic joints like “Don’t Take It Personal” and “Before You Walk Out My Life” and her second The Boy Is Mine won her a Grammy for the title track with duet partner Brandy. Then tragedy hit in 2000 when her boyfriend, Jarvis Weems, took his own life in her presence. (She has a tattoo on her left arm in his honor.) A romance with No Limit’s C-Murder also went awry when he married someone else and then landed in jail on a murder charge. Despite that, Monica seems more old soul than helpless victim of wayward romances. Slim and approachably beautiful at 22, she exudes both serenity and an ease with herself and others that belies her age. Her current hit “So Gone,” with its 70’s feel, is a perfect fit for her untrained yet powerful voice. Out promoting her new album After the Storm, we caught up with her recently in New York. AllHipHop: When did you know you could sing? Monica: I was seven and I sang “The Greatest Love of All” for a king and queen contest for our church and I realized kind of then that something sounded different. That’s it and that’s all to it and I sang in church and that was it I enjoyed it and I had fun with it and after doing the talent show I met Dallas and that was pretty much the start of all of this. AllHipHop: How do you give gospel music a secular feel? Monica: It happens naturally. It happens, because its so out of my control it comes from one place and that’s my heart its easy for me to incorporate the two. AllHipHop: How was it like working with Missy Elliot? Monica: We hadn’t worked together before and it was so weird to have worked with her before and have the kind of relationship we had in our friendship. It felt normal to go to Miami and work at night and sleep all day because that’s her schedule. That kind of creativity is something that you can’t find everywhere. She definitely worked different with some of the other producers that I worked with but not that I needed adjustment sometime we’d do two songs a night. I just picked what I felt best reflected me and what best reflected the album. AllHipHop: How is she? She had that easygoing type of relationship with me. She may have to think about how to word things with other artists, but she would give me her opinions and we would go from there with no hesitation. If at any point if it would have been hard I would have really stopped the sessions, because I didn’t want it to put a strain on our other relationship. People didn’t know what we were working on [and] we kept everything to ourselves until we were finished. She likes to do things herself without any outside influence and by the time you [say], “Where is it?” its ready to go AllHipHop: What do you do offstage? Monica: Real relaxed. I love vacations. You have some people in this industry that are so high strung they don’t know how to vacation when they have the chance. I’m big on resting and eating well because of all the change of climates and the travel. I’m never in any of the pictures in the nightclubs, because that’s not the stuff that I’m interested in I like the real relaxed environments and I’m a big movie person. AllHipHop: Have your views on eating and health changed these days? Monica: Yes, I’ve changed my style of cooking because it was really southern – lots of rice and fried foods. It’s changed quite a bit. If I get the urge to have something like that I do it but I try not too my biggest weakness it cakes and pies. I have an aunt who bakes. Both of my parents are high blood pressure patients and most people think that its weight that makes you sick but she’s four pounds heavier than me at 53. Hollywood is obsessed with being thin and though I used to hate (being skinny), now I can eat and it’s fine. My mom changed the way she eats, my mom doesn’t even cook anything but turkey and maybe no meat period. My stepfather is a diabetic. I eat [what I want] if I get in that mood, if I get a craving, but I won’t overdo it. If I have mcdonalds to day I won’t do fast food for another four weeks. AllHipHop: Why you are attracted to the men you are and do you think current trends make young women believe that it’s a good thing to date thugs? Monica: I think for me that it’s become a trend for some people when I’m attracted to a person its never because of any one thing. I find things in those people that people never got a chance to see I think people always use us (celebrities) as a scapegoat for whatever they believe. If you like this person you consider all the issues that come with them. I considered that in my relationships with Corey (C-Murder) and in my relationship with Jarvis (Weems, the drug dealer who committed suicide) and you see because of the tragedies that happened that I had to deal with the repercussions. AllHipHop: Are your personal friendships are more important than business? Monica: I don’t allow music to affect […]